Manhood is Commitment to Truth

Clinging to your mommy doesn't let you love the man inside, and the woman out there.

“He’s stoned-faced drunk, not drowsy from his allergy medicine!” 

I could hear my uncle (far right in the picture) tell my aunt, as I lie face-flat on the basement floor… 

I was 16 at the time.   

I had come home from school and no one was around, but me, Tropicana Orange and Vodka. 

Was I happy that my uncle woke me up from a blacked-out state? 

Yes, because I needed help to awaken. 

𝗔𝘄𝗮𝗸𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵 of who I might become. 

My aunt held me too close to the bosom of childhood, as my testosterone bursted at the seams.  

I was ready to be anointed by the priesthood of men. 

However I had only known false prophets, who ruled by force, and shunned their own creative masculine power. 

My mother had recently passed away from cancer, and I was helping raise my 6-yr old sister with my aunt, who had recently married whom I refer to as my uncle Chris. 

My uncle Chris was my first true relationship coach, and mentor. 

A mentor who showed me what a true man could be – sensitive, caring, and responsible for his own actions. 

A man who had created his own destiny. 

A man who would hold me accountable to my actions. 

Quickly the basement that was my dungeon, turned into a fallout shelter of blissful creative expansion, as Chris taught me how to play guitar, as we’d ramble on about all things man, and woman. 

“When the student is ready, the master shall appear.” 

How does the student get ready in the first place?  Why does the student even want to learn? 

Students are formless, hollowed out gentle hearts, that are eager to embrace what they don’t know. 

Students are ready to thrust forward into life because they have exhausted all of life’s previous lessons. 

I knew what kind of man I didn’t want to be. 

I recognized that many men, no matter how old, were unwilling to let go of their infantile sentiment that clung fiercely to their mothers, which served to produce only a skin-deep attraction to their partners. 

Many of these revelations were thanks to my uncle Chris. 

For the first time in my life, I could hear my voice heard by another grown man. 

I was willing to be vulnerable enough to talk, and he was willing to be present. 

That’s what a true mentorship, and a relationship looks like. 

What mentors do you have in your life? 

Are you ready to be a student? 

Don’t compromise. Seek 𝗵𝗶𝗴𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵. 

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